As we move through midlife, as spiritual women over 40, we move in and out of the four stages of spiritual growth.
The stages in summary are:
· Life is being done to me. Things happen and I am not in control.
· I create my own reality. Life happens By me
· I become a channel, an instrument through which God, Spirit, the Universe operates
· I recognize that God and I are One. I begin to see all of life as One.
Unfortunately, we often tend to live in the first stage although most people I know are slow to admit this or even to realize it. Especially when we are attempting to reinvent ourselves, it is important not to let yourself be trapped in this stage. We are victim or those who think something is being done TO them, whenever we use the word because.
BE CAUSE
You see, when you think that something outside of yourself is causing anything, you are missing the basic law of the Universe - the law of attraction which teaches us that everything, and I do mean everything in life is a result of our consciousness or as physicists call it, our vibration. Everything that comes into our life, comes because we are a vibrational match to it. Yes, we are that powerful!
You Have to Surrender
Of course, no one wants to live in the victim stage. But, in order to move from one stage to another, you have to surrender something. You have to give up something. You have to go through a purification in order to expand your level of awareness.
What does a victim have to give up in order to take responsibility for their life? Victimhood - blame.. Every victim has a blame story. Some are very smart and intelligent so they do thesis on their blame story. And they can articulate exactly what happened in their life, when it happened, who did it to them and why they are the way they are today.
And unless there’s a willingness to give up blame, to come into the spiritual realization that the only thing really there is to blame is ignorance - not knowing, a person can be extremely adept at understanding why something happened in their life and never be healed. This is why we put a strong emphasis on forgiveness and self-forgiveness and releasing animosity and resentment and all of that stuff because as you already know or will come to know, all forgiveness is self-forgiveness and what’s passing through your awareness - the resentment, the animosity, etc. is effecting your life, your body, your experience, and is not effecting anyone else.
So all victims have to give up blame in order to take responsibility for their lives, in order to begin to work on themselves that they may purify their awareness, that they may manifest the glory of God on earth in human experience.
Where are you still BLAMING?
SPEND TIME This week noticing where you are still BLAMING — maybe it’s the weather, the stars?, if my ex-husband only; if my children weren’t — that awful mechanic - that stupid xyz…
Whenever you find yourself ANNOYED - see who you have a tendency to blame? Dig deep here. Are you saying it’s happening because or are you allowing yourself to BE Cause?
Being cause doesn’t mean being to blame. So, watch
And so, I would like to offer a support system for getting and keeping clear and out of blame in your life. When you subscribe to my free Women Reinvent Midlife newsletter, you’ll even receive a special report called, “7 Secrets for Reinventing Midlife from the Inside-Out”. You can get your copy right now at http://www.reinventmidlife.com
From Dr. Toni LaMotta, Midlife Reinvention Specialist and Spiritual Life Clarity Coach
